Lots of great setups for all kinds of emotions and experiences.
Blessings, Dawn
Part IV
Hi Everyone,
Here is Part IV of Dr. Carol Look's weight loss series. Please note her creative use of EFT for visualization. As you will see, it allowed the client to better see herself at her goal weight (important) AND contributed to the surfacing of underlying core issues (also important).
Hugs, Gary
"Beth" volunteered for a group demonstration involving a visualization technique to create an image of herself at her goal weight. Before directing the group to try to visualize themselves at their goal, I asked them, "What happened the last time you were at your goal weight?" When another class member said she associated her goal weight with getting pregnant, Beth was shocked that "someone else had the same memory/ association."
Beth had been unable to get pregnant and medical tests were unable to locate a cause. When she gained a little weight and reached what she considered her "optimum" weight, she was finally able to get pregnant with her first child. Beth gained 60 pounds with her first pregnancy and was unable to get pregnant for the second time until she reached the same "optimum" weight. Following her second pregnancy (17 years ago) Beth said she was never able to lose the weight again, despite numerous diets and attempts and, needless to say, she never became pregnant again, although she had certainly tried.
Airing this association seemed to be emotionally freeing in itself. So instead of tapping for these aspects, my intuition led me to leave this discussion about pregnancy. Accordingly, I moved the class on to tapping for the visualization exercise, knowing we could always return to this issue later if there were still blocks to the visualization.
I asked the participants to close their eyes and imagine themselves at their goal weight, and to then rate the clarity of this picture. Beth and the rest of the group tapped as follows: "Even though I'm having difficulty seeing myself at my goal weight, I deeply and completely..." After the first round of tapping, Beth told the class she could now see herself twirling in a party dress, happy with a clearer picture in her mind of her "success." She tapped two more rounds for "Even though I'm still having some difficulty seeing myself successfully reaching my goal weight..." and then the image evolved whereby she could see herself at her ideal weight in her everyday clothes, comfortable and peaceful with herself. There were no other immediate blocks to seeing the positive end result. The feelings associated with being pregnant did not resurface.
During the tapping for the visualization, Beth revealed to the class that she had gotten in touch with a memory of the first time someone shamed her for eating too much. She was five years old and remembered being scolded at a party when asking for more food. The surfacing of this memory was definitely a surprise to her. I asked the entire class to tap for "Even though I'm ashamed of myself...and my body...and for being overweight...I deeply and completely accept myself anyway." I then asked them to use the forgiveness set up ("I forgive myself for being overweight...for being ashamed of myself...") while tapping the treatment point on the index finger.
In a follow-up phone call with Beth 5 weeks later, she reported the following: "I have lost 10 pounds, I have been able to stick to my low carbohydrate diet, and I have lots of energy." During this time, tapped for the following aspects:
"Even though I crave carbohydrates...,"
"Even though this weight loss stuff is going too slow...," and
"Even though I seem to be at a plateau..."
She tapped for "Even though I can't eat like others..." (an essential key for her) and "Even though I need to exercise more than twice a week..."
I made the following suggestions to Beth to fine tune her language and hopefully push her off her plateau.:
"Even though my body doesn't want to let go/ wants to hold on to the weight..." and "Even though my body refuses to leave this plateau..."
She was also using the phrase, "I need to exercise" which I thought needed some revision. So, I asked her to be more specific about her exercise routine and to target the feelings she had about exercising. Here is the recommended wording.
"Even though I dread exercising..." or
"Even though I resist exercising more than twice a week..."
I asked Beth how she was feeling emotionally about having lost 10 pounds so far. She said she wasn't terribly excited because she's "done it before" and just felt very frustrated with herself for getting back into this position of needing to lose the weight again. We tapped over the phone for "Even though I'm frustrated and mad at myself that I've got to go through this again...I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway."
My final suggestion to push through the resistance was to start every day with the classic treatment for deep psychological reversal, "I deeply and completely accept myself even if I never get over this problem/ never lose the weight."
She promised to write me when she lost the next 10 pounds!
Dr. Carol Look
Monday, March 19, 2007
Tuesday, March 06, 2007
WYSIWYG
A break from weight loss. We will be back to the last part next week. But, I wanted to switch gears and speak to what really helps us along our path to losing weight. Taking control of our situation. Being strong. Believing in ourselves. And it all boils down to our thoughts, words, and feelings. Jack Canfield recently had a great article about it. So I will copy and paste his own words. Believe! Dawn
What You SAY is What You Get
In the previous issue of Success Strategies, I talked about how in order to be successful, we must first define what success means to us, and that means getting CLEAR about what you want, writing it down, and thinking BIG!
If you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams, you have to believe that you are capable of making it happen. You have to believe you have the right stuff, that you are able to pull it off. You have to believe in yourself. Whether you call it self-esteem, self-confidence, or self-assurance, it is a deep-seated belief that you have what it takes – the abilities, inner resources, talents, and skills to create your desired results.
Ultimately, you must learn to control your self-talk, eliminate any negative and limiting beliefs, and maintain a constant state of positive expectations.
Control Your Self-TalkResearchers have found that the average person thinks as many as 50,000 thoughts a day. Sadly, many of those thoughts are negative — I’m not management material... I’ll never lose weight... It doesn’t matter what I do, nothing ever works out for me. This is what psychologists call victim language. Victim language actually keeps you in a victim state of mind. It is a form of self-hypnosis that lulls you into a belief that you are unlovable and incompetent.
In order to get what you want from life, you need to give up this victim language and start talking to yourself like a winner — I can do it... I know there is a solution... I am smart enough and strong enough to figure this out... Everything I eat helps me maintain my perfect body weight.
You Are Always Programming Your Subconscious Mind Your subconscious mind is like the crew of a ship. You are it's captain. It is your job to give the crew orders. And when you do this, the crew takes everything you say literally. The crew (your subconscious) has no sense of humor. It just blindly follows orders. When you say, “Everything I eat goes straight to my hips,” the crew hears that as an order: Take everything she eats, turn it into fat and put it on her hips. On the other hand, if you say, “Everything I eat helps me maintain my perfect body weight,” the crew will begin to make that into reality by helping you make better food choices, exercise, and maintain the right metabolism rate for you body.
This power of your subconscious mind is the reason you must become very vigilant and pay careful attention to your spoken and internal statements. Unfortunately, most people don’t realize they are committing negative self-talk, which is why it is best to enlist another person — your success partner — in monitoring each other’s speaking. You can have a signal for interrupting each other when you use victim language.
Use Affirmations to Build Self-ConfidenceOne of the most powerful tools for building worthiness and self-confidence is the repetition of positive statements until they become a natural part of the way you think. These “affirmations” act to crowd out and replace the negative orders you have been sending your crew (your subconscious mind) all these years. I suggest that you create a list of 10 to 20 statements that affirm your belief in your worthiness and your ability to create the life of your dreams.
Of course, what to believe is up to you, but here are some examples of affirmations that have worked for others in the past:
I am worthy of love, joy and success. I am smart and make wise choices.I am loveable and capable.I create anything I want. I am able to solve any problem that comes my way. I can handle anything that life hands me. I have all the energy I need to do everything I want to do. I am attracting all the right people into my life.
Believing in Yourself is an Attitude Believing in yourself is a choice. It’s an attitude you develop over time. It’s now your responsibility to take charge of your own self-concept and your beliefs. It might help to know that the latest brain research now indicates that with enough positive self-talk and positive visualization combined with the proper training, coaching, and practice, anyone can learn to do almost anything.
You must choose to believe that you can do anything you set your mind to – anything at all – because, in fact, you can!
� 2007 Jack Canfield
Jack Canfield, America’s Success Coach, is the founder and co-creator of the billion-dollar book brand Chicken Soup for the Soul and a leading authority on Peak Performance. If you're ready to jump-start your life, make more money, and have more fun and joy in all that you do, get your FREE success tips from Jack Canfield now at: www.FreeSuccessStrategies.com
What You SAY is What You Get
In the previous issue of Success Strategies, I talked about how in order to be successful, we must first define what success means to us, and that means getting CLEAR about what you want, writing it down, and thinking BIG!
If you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams, you have to believe that you are capable of making it happen. You have to believe you have the right stuff, that you are able to pull it off. You have to believe in yourself. Whether you call it self-esteem, self-confidence, or self-assurance, it is a deep-seated belief that you have what it takes – the abilities, inner resources, talents, and skills to create your desired results.
Ultimately, you must learn to control your self-talk, eliminate any negative and limiting beliefs, and maintain a constant state of positive expectations.
Control Your Self-TalkResearchers have found that the average person thinks as many as 50,000 thoughts a day. Sadly, many of those thoughts are negative — I’m not management material... I’ll never lose weight... It doesn’t matter what I do, nothing ever works out for me. This is what psychologists call victim language. Victim language actually keeps you in a victim state of mind. It is a form of self-hypnosis that lulls you into a belief that you are unlovable and incompetent.
In order to get what you want from life, you need to give up this victim language and start talking to yourself like a winner — I can do it... I know there is a solution... I am smart enough and strong enough to figure this out... Everything I eat helps me maintain my perfect body weight.
You Are Always Programming Your Subconscious Mind Your subconscious mind is like the crew of a ship. You are it's captain. It is your job to give the crew orders. And when you do this, the crew takes everything you say literally. The crew (your subconscious) has no sense of humor. It just blindly follows orders. When you say, “Everything I eat goes straight to my hips,” the crew hears that as an order: Take everything she eats, turn it into fat and put it on her hips. On the other hand, if you say, “Everything I eat helps me maintain my perfect body weight,” the crew will begin to make that into reality by helping you make better food choices, exercise, and maintain the right metabolism rate for you body.
This power of your subconscious mind is the reason you must become very vigilant and pay careful attention to your spoken and internal statements. Unfortunately, most people don’t realize they are committing negative self-talk, which is why it is best to enlist another person — your success partner — in monitoring each other’s speaking. You can have a signal for interrupting each other when you use victim language.
Use Affirmations to Build Self-ConfidenceOne of the most powerful tools for building worthiness and self-confidence is the repetition of positive statements until they become a natural part of the way you think. These “affirmations” act to crowd out and replace the negative orders you have been sending your crew (your subconscious mind) all these years. I suggest that you create a list of 10 to 20 statements that affirm your belief in your worthiness and your ability to create the life of your dreams.
Of course, what to believe is up to you, but here are some examples of affirmations that have worked for others in the past:
I am worthy of love, joy and success. I am smart and make wise choices.I am loveable and capable.I create anything I want. I am able to solve any problem that comes my way. I can handle anything that life hands me. I have all the energy I need to do everything I want to do. I am attracting all the right people into my life.
Believing in Yourself is an Attitude Believing in yourself is a choice. It’s an attitude you develop over time. It’s now your responsibility to take charge of your own self-concept and your beliefs. It might help to know that the latest brain research now indicates that with enough positive self-talk and positive visualization combined with the proper training, coaching, and practice, anyone can learn to do almost anything.
You must choose to believe that you can do anything you set your mind to – anything at all – because, in fact, you can!
� 2007 Jack Canfield
Jack Canfield, America’s Success Coach, is the founder and co-creator of the billion-dollar book brand Chicken Soup for the Soul and a leading authority on Peak Performance. If you're ready to jump-start your life, make more money, and have more fun and joy in all that you do, get your FREE success tips from Jack Canfield now at: www.FreeSuccessStrategies.com
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