Toward more sportsmanlike conduct

Do you ever have the experience of being overlooked? How does it feel? Not so good. Sometimes it brings up hurtful things from the past. But even worse, is when your child, who is beautiful, wonderful, truly talented, is overlooked. I am embarrassed to say that it has brought out things in me that are not so nice. I have a child who has had physical talents since a young age. He has also carried deep fears and inadequacies for years. I am not sure where they came from, but I suspect mistakes I made as an inexperienced young mom, may be contributors. It seems to attract negative experiences to him. And even though we have encouraged him and he has worked hard to overcome and excel, his coaches repeatedly overlook his talent. This is not a "my child is perfect" syndrome. He really is a hard worker, respectful, and physically talented. And yet other children who have many more bad faults and equal or less talent, seem to have the opportunity to shine.

Well, I am deciding to change my tune. As we recover from football and move on to basketball, I am making a conscious choice to support him and his team gracefully. And whether he plays or not, is really his choice and learning experience. How I respond can be an example and give him the opportunity to reflect and change what is needed to draw more positive opportunities to him.

EFT:

Even though my child is regularly overlooked, I deeply and completely accept myself.
Even though no one can see his talent but me, I choose to know others can see his goodness.
Even though he may never get the credit or spotlight he truly deserves, I let go of the need for him to succeed and receive the experience I am meant to have.
Even though I want to be able to be proud of his achievements, I accept my child for the talents I know he has that we benefit quietly the most from.
Even thought I have these pride issues, I choose to let him have his own experiences...


And so it goes. Our disappointments are a message to us. Why do I need for my child to be publicly recognized? Why do I need to be publicly recognized? What can we do to encourage healthy self esteem no matter what the world says? How do we encourage him to accept what is and release it and move on? These aren't always easy questions and there aren't always answers. But by asking the questions, we can move in a direction of ease and grace from unsettled and unhappy feelings. And asking questions can bring the answers we need, so that we can move to happier and more accepting circumstances. A shift of emotion often creates an avalanche of change and opportunity.

Blessings,
Dawn